Nice Guys Finish Last

   I've definitely had my share of weird men, corny, overly nice men, extremely sensitive and jealous men, players, thugs and criminals but these were just mere encounters. Throughout my life thus far i've only settled down with one person that I now realize is the closest to the perfect balance of sensitivity and aggression. Of course he's not perfect and no one is but I believe that this should be the prototype for all men. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am a very nice, friendly and humbled person. However, I do not want my man/spouse to be this way. I can be unassertive at times therefore I can not handle my boyfriend being that way with me. Of course he has to be sweet and funny and not too obnoxious. Submissiveness, fear and extreme sensitivity on the other hand,  is weakness and for goodness sake, unattractive.

      My friends once asked why is it that you like these very opinionated men that most people do not like? I don't know but there is something very sexy about opinionated men. An opinionated man is a smart man. He's not afraid to participate, defend himself and assert himself. I'm an opinionated woman so I like the challenge. There is nothing like a good debate with a real man; makes them so interesting. 

As much as women do not want to admit that we need a man, we do. We need someone to protect us. Yea were much more independent and stronger than ever before but we still need that other half to complete our divine connection with God. So sorry nice guys, we love you but you finish last. Not saying I won't be friends with you because like I mentioned i'm very nice also and I love having friends. However, you will most likely not be boyfriend because the first thing I think about is how is the person intimately. I'm not advising you to be an ass hole but find that perfect balance and you'll rarely have a problem getting what you want. You don't have to look like this gentlemen here. Trust me I've dated some scumbag-looking people! lol. Hence the way you look on the outside is not always important to women. That's a MYTH. We love a good personality, you know some humor and intelligence. Looks are more important to you guys. Btw: I posted this picture of this handsome man but that does not mean i'm only attracted to men who look like this lol I've dated almost every type :).  If your a man and your sexy i'm attracted to you but don't get me wrong I love my black men.